Gemini season is upon us! I always feel the most “me” when my birthday is approaching. Despite stepping outside and feeling like I’m in the heart of Satan’s den, there’s something magical about June. It’s a time for pool parties, ice cold margs, exploring new places, and my fave – NO PANTS. It’s hard for me to comprehend that I only have a couple more years in my 20s. CAN YOU BELIEVE? Because I can’t. I still feel like a 17 year old most days, and luckily still get mistaken for one often. This is probably the first year where I’ve been like…I’m a legit adult (even if I don’t feel like it). Worsham and I will have been married for TWO years this fall, I’m going on five years at my job, we own a house…not a ratchet college “starter home” but a legit house. 27 is when you can safely assume your friends are getting pregnant on purpose, and when your exes start dating 22 year olds. It’s also when neither of these things phase you anymore. You’re just like weird, but yes, this makes sense.
Here are some of the lessons I’ve taken away from this season in my life.
1. Let Go of the Outcome – This is really easy for me in some areas and insanely difficult in others. My fellow Geminis know that everything (literally, everything) about us is a walking contradiction. We can be chill AF and high strung at the same time. I think half of the battle is learning to live with the fact that we want everything and nothing all at once. The best thing we can do with life’s ups and downs is to let go of the outcome. The journey is the fun part anyway. I know I sound like a self-help book right now, but it’s true (also self-help books are the best so BYE). It’s always easier when you let go and trust that everything will work out. The example that sticks out most to me from this year is our house. Worsham and I bid on two different ones that we were both in love with and dead-set on getting. We were like THIS IS IT! FOR REAL. And it wasn’t it. After the second house fell through, I was like you know what you have to do. Quit being OCD and just let it happen. The third time was the charm, and such a better fit for us than the others. Don’t be afraid to let go.
2. FORGIVE – Forgiveness has been a theme for me this year. Forgiveness for myself, forgiveness for old wounds. You name it. I won’t get into all the details, but I had the chance to truly forgive someone who I hadn’t seen in years who played a huge part in my early 20s. They went from being my entire life to not being in it period, and as much as I tried to tell myself that I was okay with that and that I had already forgiven them, it wasn’t true. That changed this year when I was able to see them in person again. And even though it was hard, it was healing. I can finally say we’re all good and mean it. Forgiveness is something that has been a huge deal for me since I lost my dad almost 11 years ago, and it pops up in new ways throughout my life. Losing my dad reinforced that life is too short for loose ends and anger. At the end of the day, you’ll never regret replacing it with love.
3. Babies are Not for Me – You already know, I’ve never been a “baby” person. I’m a cat person. Babies aren’t cats. It’s a pretty simple concept. However, if you’re a breathing human with a vag you’ve had someone say, “you’ll change your mind one day! Just wait until you get older!” Well fools, I’m older now. I’m nearing 30 at this point and nothing has changed. I used to think maybe they’re right, maybe I will…and then I hear a screaming baby in Target and I’m like BYE, FELICIA! Also Worsham and I adopted a puppy this year and it has been ROUGH. She’s very sweet and beautiful, but she’s insane. I honestly cannot comprehend how people go through having a puppy and then are like YEAH, BABIES! WTF? To each their own, but I’ll keep my beauty sleep and money. Thank you and good day.
4. When All Else Fails, Write it Out – I’ll say this a million times in a million blog posts, but KEEP A JOURNAL. WRITE IN IT. It’s the best therapy and it’s free. I write in mine all the time and it’s been especially important for my sanity this year. If I’m acting insane, it’s because I haven’t written in it in a couple weeks. Sometimes the best/most enlightening things arrive in the pages of your journal when you sit down and write. And the best part is, no one reads them but you.
5. Roots Aren’t a Bad Thing – TBH, I’m still coming around to this concept. It still kind of makes me want to flee the country, but such is being a Gemini. I want roots here, there, everywhere, and nowhere at the same time. It’s annoying. But “settling down” in a community isn’t a bad thing, especially when you’re a homebody like me. Just because you buy a house, doesn’t mean you have to live in it until you die. It means you have someplace to come home to that’s yours. That’s it. Plus it gives you more freedom to travel whenever you want because you never have a lease to worry about running out, random maintenance people to worry about, or the random psychopaths who live a foot away from you who might be serial killers.
6. Sometimes Your Loved Ones are the Best Therapists – I’m not one who likes to talk about my feelings very much, but sometimes it’s good to get them out there! Worsham’s probably reading this like WTF are you talking about? That’s because talking about my feelings is always easy with him! He’s my #1 therapist. But sometimes you need to babble about the insane thoughts in your head to friends/family too. Sometimes they know you better than you know you. You know?
7. The Power of Skincare is Real – Fun fact: you can’t get wrinkles if they never are allowed to form in the first place. Skincare has always been important to me, but it’s even more important now that I’m getting older. I’ve started microneedling and adding anti-aging products to my routine. Take care of your skin, people. It’s the largest organ on your body. Also random tidbit – If you’re looking for an organic sunscreen that won’t make you look like you’re literally dead, get Pacifica’s new SPF/body butter. It’s amazing.
Here’s to the last few weeks of 27!